In addition to being a therapist and author, I speak regularly on the subjects of relationships and success. In the area of relationships, I am most known as a marriage and sex therapist. I do very powerful and motivating talks on how to create loving, passionate, and joyful long term relationships. In these talks, I promise you will hear things that you will hear from nobody else. After 27 years of helping couples, I have come to realize what it takes to make relationships work.
I have also done many talks on work relationships. Subjects include dealing with work conflict, leadership skills and team building. In regards to team building, one of the areas I focus on is Meyers Briggs Temperament and Type which is a very useful tool for creating a more cohesive, harmonious and efficient work force. My signature talk for work relationships is titled, “How To Bring the Best Out of Others.”
I have a talk titled: “Becoming a Success Magnet: How to Develop Your Midas Touch Even in Tough Times.” This presentation focuses on how to get yourself motivated to create the goals you REALLY want for your life and achieve them. This is not your typical-”Rah, Rah”speech that talks only about the power of positive thinking. This gets to your own internal obstacles to your success and happiness and teaches you how to overcome them.
Whether you need a speaker to help attendees rekindle passion and create a great intimate relationship, or deal with work relationships and leadership or want to get motivated to be wildly successful, I am your man. If you want to find out more about my speaking services, go to my website- www.toddcreager.com and click the Speaking tab.
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I have been a marriage and sex therapist for over 27 years and thoroughly believe in the possibility of change. People can improve themselves. However, and this is a big however, change is difficult. If a person wants to change a destructive behavior pattern, he needs help. He needs to be ready to do the work of change, get into therapy, examine himself and become more aware. He needs to look at his core issues and what was the driving force behind this destructive behavior.
This is not the common scenario of what happens. What more typically happens is that the “bad boy” meets the “good girl” and he uses his words to promise her that he will be different this time. She believes she is his magic answer and that her “goodness” and loyal devotion will truly change her man. At the same time, the “good girl” gets to live vicariously through the confidence and coolness of the bad boy. And even though he is still that exciting “bad boy,” she knows that he will not betray her and will contain himself, even though he has not demonstrated that ability before.
One thing I have learned without doubt is that words do not mean much at all when it comes to changing long standing negative behavior. Words are said in the “feeling of the moment,” when the couple is “in love” and they are intoxicated with each other’s presence.
However, feelings and moods change and as the early romance shifts into a more secure and stable relationship, his old instincts can rapidly emerge. He has done nothing to develop his emotional muscle to handle these impulses. In the case of adultery, the adulterer can be engaging in this for a variety of reasons such as:
1) looking for affirmation
2) stress reduction
3) sex addiction
4) sabotaging relationships and avoiding intimacy
Unless the man addresses these underlying factors, he will repeat the same behaviors again. The “bad boy” may be fun, but underneath his charm, he is fearful of growing up and being an adult. He often feels very inadequate deep down and the persona of “bad boy” is an act to compensate for and cover up these feelings.
When the female of this pair comes into my office after she has been betrayed, abused or neglected, she typically will say something like the following:
I know he had a bad past and didn’t treat women well in the past. And I had the scary thought that he would do the same thing to me. But I ignored it. He was so much fun and I had never felt this head over heels feeling about the other men I dated that actually treated women much better. Even as I was getting ready to walk up the aisle at the wedding, I had an uneasy feeling but was hopeful that love would conquer all.
All the women I counseled who have been victims of their “bad boy” intimate partner have had a gut sense much earlier in the relationship that this relationship could be dangerous to my emotional wellbeing. Many choose to ignore it because of the excitement they feel as well as their rescue fantasy. In a sense then, they are not totally blind, but blind to the importance of acting on their intuition.
My recommendations to the “good girls” who are attracted to “bad boys” are the following:
1) Find your own internal “bad girl.”
Learn how to be wilder and more selfish in healthy ways. I am not saying that you should do self-destructive behaviors but find ways to get edgier. Stretch yourself rather than rely on a man’s “badness” to express that part of you. For example- Take a pole-dancing class or decide to be all about your needs for a day rather than putting others needs first.
2) Grieve the fantasy that you have any power WHATSOEVER to change your partner’s dependent, self-absorbed or addictive patterns.
If he is not working on himself- GAME OVER AND YOU ARE THE BIG LOSER.
3) If you are not ready to give up the relationship, make an ultimatum that your partner get into therapy to deal with the underlying factors that lead to his “bad boy” behavior.
Ultimatums are absolutely necessary at times to take care of yourself. Make sure that you can be involved in the therapy either continuously or intermittently. “Bad boys” have a great talent for charming some therapists and making them as blind to his negative behaviors as you were.
Open your eyes to your deeper wisdom. Don’t just listen to his words. Listen to his actions. Being blind to the truth may allow you temporary feelings of starry-eyed love, excitement and adrenalin rushes but inevitably will lead to heartbreak and disappointment. Pay attention to his past and ask for him to do the work of growing up. If he does, great; however if it is only words you hear, let go and grieve the relationship. You deserve more.
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There are many factors that contribute to your psychology of money such as upbringing, economic background, cultural expectations, religious beliefs, role models, life circumstance, and innate personality and temperament. In addition, there are different beliefs about money (often unconscious) such as:
1) “I’ll never have enough”
2) “I don’t deserve it”
3) “I will be good enough only when I have it”
4) “I need to appear like I have money to be good enough”
In addition to the above two ways partners can be different in their handling of money matters is differences in temperament. There are four different possible temperaments. The idea of four different temperaments has been around for over 3000 years starting with Aristotle and has been developed more clearly over the last century. The most recent terms for the four temperaments are catalyst, theorist, stabilizer and guardian. People are most alive and well when they are able to meet their core needs and live their values and talents of their particular temperament.
Regarding money, catalysts tend to use money as a way to create future possibilities. They will more easily spend money to benefit themselves or their loved ones in the future. They see the big picture and will sacrifice the present to some degree to get there. Theorists strategize and think through financial matters. They see the big picture as well and will weigh the pros and cons of making a certain financial decision. Stabilizers are more concrete and would like things stable and secure. You can count on them to be thrifty and conservative with money. Improvisers are totally in the here and now. They will spend money to enjoy an experience. They want results now and will spend to get that result.
Couples can make a choice as to how they will approach their money matters. They could either stay in a power struggle or choose to work towards understanding, balance, and cooperation. Firstly, they need to work toward understanding and accepting their two different money realities. With that understanding and acceptance in place, they can more easily practice good listening, compromising and effective problem solving and resolution.
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You have much influence on what you evoke in your partner. I am not saying that you are responsible for your partner’s behavior. He is responsible for his behavior and you are responsible for yours. We all have the power to choose how to respond to a certain situation. Having said that, you cannot discount the affect your behavior has on your partner. If you say things in a harsh way, you will probably get defensiveness or fighting back. If you say things in an accepting, kind way, you will probably get a more positive response.
Many couples come to me in a total state of reactivity. Each is reacting to the other person’s reaction which in turn is a reaction to another reaction. And the beat goes on and on and on and on. Until one of the partners wakes up to the realization that he has got to think differently. He realizes that if he perceives his wife as a “nag” for example, he will treat her in a way that will probably make her act worse towards him. However, if he perceives her as a person who is frustrated or hurt or deprived or overwhelmed, he may be apt to be more compassionate and helpful. If he treats her with more compassion, there is a better chance that she will treat him significantly better than before.
Do an experiment. See her in the best possible light. Remember those times when you did feel in love with her and treat her as if you feel that way right now. You just may actually fall in love with her all over again! Yes, that is the way it works. If you want to fall in love with your partner, treat her as if you are in love with her and- voila- she may just stop being that nag and suddenly become your princess.
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I am announcing a brand new in-person group that is intended to help you be on your growing edge, that place where you are up against your own fears and resistance to being all that you really are and all that you want to be. The group will be a safe, fun and supportive place to have breakthroughs in those areas that may be holding you back from that next level of success or satisfaction. This could be in the areas of health, career or relationship. I am calling it a “Flourish Group,” because you are capable of flourishing in this lifetime even when conditions are challenging. Life asks us to be courageous and loving (to ourselves and others) even when it is difficult to do so.
flour-ish
–verb (used without object)
1. to be in a vigorous state; thrive:
2. to be in its or in one’s prime; be at the height of fame, excellence, influence, etc.
3. to be successful; prosper.
4. to grow luxuriantly, or thrive in growth, as a plant
This group is for people who are ready to remove internal blocks to have more aliveness and more of what they truly want in their lives. Discover and live your potential. Learn how to enjoy living on your own edge. Learn how to lovingly and joyfully meet your fears and go past previous limits.
My intent for participants are to:
1) Have improved physical and mental well being
2) Discover and utilize their courage to have more of what they want including better relationships and more money
3) Have an excitement about their own life path and process
Those that have worked with me know that I help clients get to their core blocks quickly and I have successfully helped them motivate themselves to be more of the people they want to be. I would love the opportunity to assist you in this way as well. You also get the tremendous benefit of other group members who are as interested in growth and aliveness as you are. A great synergy develops among group members.
If you are interested in finding out more about this group experience, call me at (714) 848-2288 or e-mail me at todd@toddcreager.com.
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Valentine’s Day- Florists and card store owners love the date, as well as jewelers and chocolate candy manufacturers. Is it a commercial rip-off or a wonderful reminder that we need to think of our partner? My answer is it is both. Do people really need to spend extra money on flowers, jewelry or chocolates? I would say no.
But I do think it is important to do something for your partner for February 14th to show you care. And also-February 15th, 16th, 17th, etc. and the same is true for every day of the year. It is not in our habits to do that and for most of us men, we probably would even forget about doing something for Valentine’s Day without the never-ending commercials on TV, radio, incoming e-mails and the internet that remind us of this important date. And there is nothing wrong with the fact that we need reminders to do things we typically do not do. I am going to get back to this idea about reminders below.
But first, today when I was doing the pre-interview for my TV taping for the Greg Mantell show, he asked me what I have been asked so many times before. He was talking about my book, “The Long, Hot Marriage,” and he said, “I understand the ‘long’ part, but is it really possible to have a long hot marriage? Most people don’t think so.” Here was and always will be my answer to that question. It is impossible to have a long, hot marriage if we do what our parents did. It is easy to slip into a mode of comfort and automation with our partners. Unlike the beginning of relationships where we automatically think of our partner because it is new, unfamiliar and exciting, as the relationship continues we need to make a conscious habit of thinking about our partner on a consistent basis.
Example:
I was working with a couple married 30 years, the last 27 of which was not very “hot” at all. They had settled into their routine through the years including raising kids. He would come home from work, eat a relatively silent dinner with his wife and get to the remote control of the TV. For variation, he would get on the computer and read sports news and events. I suggested to him that instead of going to the remote control that he put some music on and ask his wife to dance. His response to me was laughter as he said, “yeah, right.” He must have thought about it more later. The following session, the couple came in light and smiley. He had asked her to dance more than once that week. She (coincidentally, of course) suddenly had a renewed interest in making love to her husband and they had a pretty “hot” week.
For this couple, the day he asked her to dance was Valentine’s Day all over again. And it was free! He mentioned to me during the visit that he wasn’t “in the mood” to ask his wife to dance but he did it anyway. And then he became in the mood when he saw his wife’s positive reaction. That’s how it works sometimes in a long marriage. The difference then between a long marriage and a long, hot marriage is conscious thought and conscious effort.
So, how do we develop new habits instead of slip into the same behavioral groove as yesterday? Since we don’t always have Valentine’s Day reminders coming at us, we need to devise other ways to remind us. For men, I have had a lot of success with suggesting that they use their phone as an alert- a romantic alert. For example, in his “tasks” on his phone, he could write, “Send wife romantic text,” and set it for 11AM that day (or every day). I have had men write, “Communicate with partner” and set it for 7 PM in the evening. If this doesn’t work for you, think of other aids that could remind you of new positive behaviors that you never saw your parents do but that could enhance the relationship. These reminders can be very helpful.
So Happy Valentine’s Day to you. Be loving to yourself and your loved ones on that day and every day.
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Attention- you hear the word a lot. Stand at attention, Attention Deficit Disorder, Attention-seeking behavior. I actually like the word. I will define it as follows: the act of focusing or giving someone or something your energy.
As children, we learn to pay attention in ourselves to what our parents paid attention to in us. For example, as a child gets older, if the parent does not pay attention to the child’s feelings, but does pay attention to the child’s achievements in time what happens? The growing child/adult learns to not pay attention to his feelings and focuses a lot on his achievements. It’s often that simple. So, this hypothetical person (who is many of you) may not even experience his feelings unless it is extremely painful.
As a partner, this person will probably not be able to honor his partner’s feelings either. You cannot accept something in others that you do not accept in yourself. Many of us, especially men, have not developed the practice of paying attention to what is going on inside of our bodies- which is where feelings and sensations are experienced. Many people spend too much of their time in their heads, caught up in thoughts. Thoughts are good; there is nothing wrong with thoughts; the problem is we have learned to give too much of our energy to our mind and not enough to our body.
Here is one of the problems with spending too much time in our heads and not enough in our bodies- Our inner sense of what is right for us and others can be felt by pulling our energy away from our head and mind and putting it in our heart and gut. Our intuition is developed through this process; hence expressions such as- follow your heart or what’s your gut instinct.
Our inner sense will sometimes lead us to somewhere different and unfamiliar; maybe somewhere uncomfortable. We can often be surprised by what our inner sense is telling us to do- maybe it tells us to take a new direction in career or relationship or bring out a hidden aspect of ourselves. You can say that the vast resources of our unconscious mind live deeper in our body. Those that are spending too much time paying attention to automatic thoughts are giving the conscious mind too much power. This does not allow for growth or changing unhelpful patterns. It is a very different way of being- attending to our sensations, feelings, heart’s direction or gut instinct.
Listening to your thoughts can be helpful. If you are in the grocery store and remembering a recipe so that you know what to buy, being in your head and recalling thoughts is the right place to be. I encourage you though to spend time “out of your mind” and into your body.
What do you really want to do that you have not done?
What are you feeling?
What do you want to express that you have not expressed?
Listen and wait for the answer. This feels strange at first to people who have spent the vast percentage of their time thinking. Let your unconscious wisdom come forth. Let your body reveal its wisdom. It may then be easier to honor the wisdom and experiences in the body of others.
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Todd Creager, Author of “The Long, Hot Marriage” is Doing a Book Signing in Huntington Beach at Tommy Pastrami benefitting the Colette’s Children’s Home
Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT, a marriage and sex therapist will be doing a book signing at Tommy Pastrami in Huntington Beach on January 27th from 11AM-2 PM and 5PM- 8PM. Todd Creager, has come out with a new book, “The Long, Hot Marriage,” that dispels the myth that marriage and long-term relationships eventually means the end of passion and sexuality. He shows you how to create the kind of passionate marriage your parents probably never had. Ten percent of the profits of the sale of the book as well as food purchased will go to Colette’s Children Home, a shelter in Huntington Beach helping women and children.Huntington Beach, CA January, 2010- Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT, a marriage and sex therapist has come out with a book, “The Long, Hot Marriage,” a book that can convince you that long term relationships and passionate sex actually do go together. The book teaches you how to awaken the sleeping marriage, not only in the bedroom but outside of it as well. Todd Creager says, “The key is developing interpersonal creativity- the ability to actively think and behave in ways that uplift the energy of the couple.” Many people are going through financial challenges and there is a feeling of “crisis” in our country. During times like these, people can get into a “survival” mode and forget that we need to tend to the relationships in our life, especially the one with our intimate partner.
When Tommy Pastrami came out with their ad campaign for the “Couple Therapy Sandwich,” Todd thought of the idea to do a book signing in honor of the name of that sandwich. He happened to know the owners of the Tommy Pastrami in Huntington Beach, Gary and Ellie Thormodsgaard. When he contacted them with his idea, they had already been thinking of contacting him. The Thormodsgaards are very involved in the Huntington Beach business community and Todd Creager has been running his private practice in Huntington Beach for over 20 years. Doing a book signing in the Tommy Pastrami in Huntington Beach just made perfect sense.
A portion of the profits will be going to Colette’s Children’s Home in Huntington Beach. Colette’s Children’s home provides homeless single women and homeless mothers with children a safe home and nurturing environment where they obtain compassionate support and services needed to achieve self-sufficiency. They are a wonderful organization that has assisted many people in great need. The Thormodsgaards and Todd Creager are excited about contributing to such a great cause that helps people in the community where they work.
The book, “The Long, Hot Marriage,” is an out growth of the work Creager has done with couples in 27 years of private practice. Couples can learn how to develop the emotional muscle to stay connected even in the most painful times. This can create a more solid foundation in their relationship. As this solid foundation begins to form, the couple can learn how to be more attentive and impactful lovers. Being a great lover has less to do with great technique and more to do with how you are with each other. It is important to learn how to be in the present moment, become better “receivers” of love and pleasure and develop other traits and attitudes that most people can achieve with the guidance of this book and the willingness to do some of the creative exercises.
You can find out more information about his book as well as other services and products at his website: www.toddcreager.com. You can also download a free sample chapter by going to www.thelonghotmarriage.com.
About Todd
Creager: Todd Creager is a licensed clinical social worker and licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in couples and human sexuality. His business is called “The Todd Creager Center for Successful Relationships. He has a private practice in Huntington Beach, CA and gives talks on relationships throughout the country.
Contact:
Todd Creager
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(714) 848-2288
www.toddcreager.com
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Here is the Wikipedia definition of ‘masculinity’:
Masculinity is manly character. It specifically describes men and boys, that is personal and human, unlike male which can also be used to describe animals, or masculine which can also be used to describe noun classes. When masculine is used to describe men, it can have degrees of comparison—more masculine, most masculine. The opposite can be expressed by terms such as unmanly, epicene or effeminate. A typical near-synonym of masculinity is virility (from Latin vir, man); and the usual complement is femininity.
Well, that doesn’t really say anything. However, it does end by saying “the usual complement is femininity.”
Here is the definition of femininity according to Wikipedia:
Femininity (also called womanliness) refers to qualities and behaviors judged by a particular culture to be ideally associated with or especially appropriate to women and girls.
Distinct from femaleness, which is a biological and physiological classification concerned with the reproductive system, femininity principally refers to secondary sex characteristics and other behaviors and features generally regarded as being more prevalent and better suited to women, whether inborn or socialized. In traditional Western culture, such features include gentleness, patience, and kindness.[citation needed]
That definition is a little clearer; at least it equated femininity with traits such as gentleness, patience and kindness. What do those three traits have in common? Looking at those three words on this page, I think of the word ‘soft’ and I think of the word ‘open.’ In gentleness, patience and kindness, there is an overall quality of non-resistance and acceptance. 
So, femininity has to do with openness, softness and a certain acceptance and non-resistance. Here is my definition of masculinity then: Masculinity is any action a man can do that will bring out the softness, acceptance, openness and non-resistance of his female partner. How can a man learn what it takes to evoke this femininity from his mate?
1) Ask her
This is the # 1 way, For example: “What do you need for me the most that would make you feel loved and cherished?
2) Stop looking at your female mate as a nag or a controller
When you see her that way, you are experiencing her as a “mother; or authority and you are the child that has to be compliant or rebellious. Instead, come form your own “inner adult” and see her as a person who has needs or wants. She is not a nag; she just needs you to come through for her and nurture her. She wants to depend on you to a certain degree. That will bring out her femininity; her trust.
3) Listen to her
Stop trying to fix or solve her problems. Listening may just be the single most masculine act you can do. Why you may ask? Because it has maximum impact and brings out the trust of your female partner.
4) Unlearn the old, obsolete ideas of masculinity
Being dominant brings out distrust, not trust of your female mate which gives you less of what you want. Being passive is not the answer either. Masculinity involves standing up for yourself but not being self absorbed. Your needs are important but no more important than your partner’s.
5) Create a habit of thinking about her and how you can make her feel important
Do this contemplating for several minutes every day and then follow through with action. It is not difficult to be romantic. It just takes thought and then speaking or acting in ways that lets her know that she is on your mind.
6) Sexually, everything follows the same way as what I have said
Ask for what you want and be interested in what she wants. Her sexual needs are probably different than yours. “Viva la difference!” Soothe yourself if you don’t get to orgasm because she wants to just cuddle. The rewards are coming. A woman who feels cherished and important and listened to, will want to please you sexually. In the long run, you will get more of what you want when you stop insisting on your way. A quote I read comes to mind: “Ask for everything you want and demand nothing.”
This is great advice. After reading what I just wrote, I better follow it! (lol) So should you! Bringing out your female partner’s femininity will not only help you feel masculine and good about yourself; it will also create and maintain the healthy polarity of man and woman that you may have had very early in your relationship. However, if you have never had this healthy polarity of masculine/feminine, you can enjoy experimenting with these new behaviors and enjoy the benefits.
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This is a very short and to the point video on how to bring the best out of your partner. We homo sapiens totally underestimate the power of our perceptions of others and how it affects others. With our intimate partner, amazing changes can occur when we begin utilizing the power of our own perceptions.
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